Tuesday, April 29, 2014

Just

... hearing you sleep makes me happy.


With that, my world is beginning to be more interesting.

Wednesday, February 26, 2014

Fast Facts

Fact: I can turn off all bad vibes when I'm training.
Fact: Dating life has been rough, to say the least.
Fact: Training is my comfort zone. Everything else at work annoys me, lately.
Fact: First post of the year, first post after being 30.
Fact: 30 feels fine.

Saturday, August 3, 2013

Remember me?

I think it has been almost a year since I last posted. I kinda miss reading through my days back when I was still active in blogging. Microblogging sites (Twitter and Facebook, I'm looking at you!) have already taken over. At least for me. And I haven't really felt the need to be writing about what I feel for the longest time. It makes me have to recollect and evaluate how I feel about certain things. After all, this is my repository. But since it's a Friday night and I'm just home doing nothing, I guess, this sort of gives me the go ahead to post it all on here, albeit, randomly. 


I have been in the company for more than three years. I didn't realize until mid this year that this has been my longest stint in a company. More than three years. Wow. First thought, there's still no promotion. WTF. I always get this "Hey, great job on this" "Good job on that!" "I appreciate that." Well, fuck you. I don't need sweet words, I need a promotion. Otherwise, you're just patronizing me and I hate that. Yeah. FUCK YOU.
BUT.

I love what I do. Those fucktards are lucky because I seriously love what I do. It's not that kind of thing you just tell yourself when you feel like you're stuck in a rut. Because heaven knows, I really love what I do. One more extra-curricular thing in this job that I love doing is hosting. So thank for events. And events have been many. 
But seriously, I think I have already set something this year for myself. If there is no promotion this year, I shall say goodbye and look for another company to work for - some place where I'm not just given a thumbs up but rewarded. My beef with this company is that it fucking lacks focus especially on the people who work for them. I've seen some people - good, competent people - leave because of that. Promotion, sometimes, is not because of merit but because of your closeness to certain figures. I shall refrain myself from naming names. 

In other news, it's gonna be Lola's first death anniversary soon. I can't believe it has already been a year. I was just watching the video I took of her a few weeks before she died and I can't help feeling nostalgic and sad. I'm quite surprised because I've never lived with her when I was young - spare some summer vacation I've spent in Dumaguete - and I really miss her. 
I remember when I came back for her birthday last year and I just wanted to spend time with her. It was one of those late afternoons that she was just watching TV when I sat beside her. I don't know if she noticed but I was exerting extra effort to talk to her and really just spend time with her. Sigh. 
Well, it's been almost a year. Fuck time flies by so fast. 

Speaking of time, it's nearly my 30th birthday. WHAT. THE. HELL. 30.
I've never really given much thought to it until last month when I felt I was really gonna hit 30. There's just something in that number that made me wanna stop myself and think about the things I've done in the past (almost) 30 years. No, it's not something emo or anything. It's more of "what have I done with my life?" sort of thing. It just hit me. It really did. And hard.
So I loosely planned what I wanted to do and it was a lot. There is one basic thing, though, in the many plans I've thought of - I wanna do something big, perhaps a first. I thought about traveling by myself alone somewhere. I've thought about celebrating it in an orphanage, too. I've thought about inviting the special 30 people in my life and giving them something. In any case, I just want to do something I don't normally do on my birthday. 
(Fuck I'm really turning 30!)

This is where all this gets interesting (REALLY?) I'm still single. The last time I was in a relationship was when I started working for the company I'm currently in. I was 26 then. I didn't realize that when I get to almost 30, it will somehow feel like a race - a race where I'm not really too keen on competing but it's just there. A nagging, dull, feeling about me being single. For lack of a better term, I'm afraid (not sure if I'm really fearful about it) that I'm really used to being single. I've done things by myself for many, many, many occasions already that it does not bug me. Well, spare this few months before I turn 30 because it does. 

One last, something from the old chest of my memory came back to reality just last week. My immigration papers. After 11 years. I seriously don't know how to feel about it. There's that bleak, hazy, image of New York, though. But seriously. I knew by the start of the year that something really big, something life-changing will happen to me this year. I'm still praying for that and I'm not even sure what it is. 

Oh well. That's all for now. I guess my number of words for the day is met. 

Ciao.








Sunday, November 4, 2012

RS


This is one of those nights when I feel really iffy. The person I was hoping to hear from the most has not been replying to my texts for a week. We’ve met last week and it was great. One of the best meetings (it’s not a date) I’ve had, in fact. But after the person left for Cebu, no more texts. Sigh.

I’ve also just had a dream. In it, someone was driving and asked if I could drive, instead. When I started the ignition and began to step on the pedal, I was seeing nothing, not even the road. So I put it on break and tried to adjust the wheel so I can see. When I hit the gas, again, I cannot see anything. It was pitch black.
My dream cut to when I was literally hitching beside the car. Inside the car were Prince William, who was apparently on a secret visit to Dumaguete, along with his security people. 
In the car was also my Lola and two of my family member whom I don’t recognize. I just know that they were. While the car was speeding down the main street of Dumaguete, I looked up and saw the moon. It was perfectly round and perfectly white that I started to howl. Not just howl but howl and convulse. I thought, at least in that dream, it was what I should do because of the moon’s perfection.

Cut again. This time I was in my Nanay’s dining table and eating on the table were my cousins and my Lola. There was this very charming cat that jumped on the table and suddenly stretched around the plate where the rice was. I had to shoo her away.

I tried to look for interpretations online and found something disturbing. It seems that I don’t exactly know what I’m doing in my life and that something inside me is being revealed.

I just hope it comes sooner. Like I said, I’m trying to spend the rest of my twenties in a good spirits.

Tonight as well, I was thinking of working abroad. Somewhere that would really make me build on my own and start a new life. I dunno. All this feeling of getting nowhere (?) and doing something new and starting fresh is recurring for weeks now. What do I do, now?

Monday, October 22, 2012

October


I’m happy with my life right now. After a month of exhausting work, travels, packing, laundering, waking up early, and being at my mental and emotional best, and not to mention additional stress on the family front, this October is turning out to be my best month. Or should I not say that so as not to jinx it?

But, really, I’ve been very grateful and humbled by the experiences I’m having this month. It started with a week-long rest when my friends and I headed to Boracay for the third time. It was planned as early as this year and I can say that it’s the best trip we’ve had so far. It was just relaxing. The first day saw us having lunch as we have arrived a little too early before our check-in time. We proceeded to rest and I began with my book (Life of Pi) under the shade of the coconut tree with the view of Boracay beach with people lazily passing by. It was just perfect. It was so perfect that I did it again in the next few days. We also played beach volleyball with the locals, who seemed to be doing it every day as they were really quick on the sand.  The weather was perfect – not too hot, and definitely not raining. It was like five in the afternoon for five straight hours. This also continued for the remaining days of our stay. In fact, on the third day, they were waiting outside the hotel and invited us to play with them the next morning. They were competitive. Well probably because we beat them in their own turf the day before. And the next few games, actually. HAHA!
The fact that the signal in Boracay was really bad, added more pleasure to our stay there. Well at least for me. I only had a few calls from the office and that was that. Sometimes, as much as I love what I do, I just need to get away from it all. Clear my head and stop and smell the flowers. Besides, all the traveling the month before, with so little time to enjoy the places I was in, made me decide to just stop and enjoy what is in front of me. And that is exactly what I did.

My body ached all over from all the physical activities we did in Boracay. My body actually hasn’t recovered from all the exhaustion it felt the month prior but this time, it was a good kind of ache. I even injured myself while on the beach, but it was never an issue for me. I was jumping and running still, even after the blister on my foot.
The next few days, I just spent at home either reading or sleeping. I felt this was just what my body – what my mind and spirit – needed.

It was also in the same week that I was able to see, for the very first time, a Broadway production. We watched Phantom of the Opera and up until now, I have no words for it. It just took my breath away. Jonathan Roxmouth, who played Phantom, did exceptionally well that his line, “… Anywhere you go, let me go, too…” is stuck in my head for days on end.  I paid more than what I was planning to spend for but it was so worth it.

It’s also just last week  that I got a surprise call from somewhere. I might share something about it later on, if it goes well.

But yeah, this month is turning to be the most awesome month ever. I’m keeping my fingers crossed up until my birthday – the last hurrah of my twenties.

PS - Life of Pi was great. The ending reduced me to tears.
PPS - I might add some photos later on.

Ciao!

Sunday, September 2, 2012

A Life of Love: My Eulogy for my Lola Esing


lola esing

Death is never a matter of if. It is always a question of when.

That has been one of my most frequent lines at what I do. Working in an industry where death is mentioned almost as naturally as breathing, and having the experience of having lost a father at a young age, I never thought that making this as what others may call a eulogy (honestly, I prefer this to be a love letter), would be so taxing --  draining.

But here I am speaking in behalf of all the apos that Lola Esing has always loved. Not knowing if I’ll ever say or remember the right things.

We all know how and why you passed. It was bone cancer. We all know that. I was in Cotabato, heading to the airport when I called mommy after seeing that I had quite a few missed calls from her. Daryll answered, he paused, and told me you have passed at 9:10 in the morning. It was blunt, it was clear, it was concise, but it was not real. I have prepared myself for this day from the moment we knew. But nothing could have prepared me, us, than those clear, sharp words “Nag-pass away na si Lola.”

I could only imagine how it was for mommy and the rest of my aunts and uncles, of course, who have been there to take care of Lola from the very beginning. Mommy has also been strong for all of us. I know a few of her decisions are not popular to all of us, but she has done what is best. And that alone is enough for me to say thank you for taking care of our Lola the very best possible way. She was even the one who finally told Lola about her condition, Ma, thank you – for being the courage FOR us.


I remember calling her to ask how she was and she told me about giving in to some of the well-intentioned friends of Lola. Forgive me if I might offend some of the traditional beliefs but I was literally laughing out loud when mommy told me that once, they went around the house with a faith healer and spread salt around the perimeter of the house to fend off the bad spirits that was purportedly causing Lola harm. It ultimately ended at the tree in front of the house where the faith healer started murmuring some prayers while the rest sprinkle salt on the ground.

As funny as it was, at least for me, it only goes to show how Lola is loved in our home.  Sometimes, we do things what for us might seem silly but we do it still. Not because we want to prove something, but because our love is bigger than what we usually do, what we usually know, and how we usually perceive things to be. I’m sure all of us will agree that Lola deserves that kind of love.

As much as we hold Lola dear to our hearts, she was also a woman who loves. Her love to my Lolo is a testament to that. Up until one of the last moments we talked to her on the eve of mother’s day, she fondly recalls how she found Lolo to be so gwapo and strong and generous and loving that ultimately made her fall for him, eventually marry him, and ultimately have six children with him. When Lolo died two decades ago in 1992, she told us that the way she deals with the loss is “Iniisip ko na lang nasa Cebu ang Lolo niyo at babalik siya soon.” And I think, for 20 years, that’s what she keeps on thinking – that’s what she does to keep her love alive. That’s how much she loves Lolo.

She also loved her children, as what mommy has shared.

Grandparents are also known to be very loving of their grandchildren – maybe sometimes, up to a point of spoiling them. Lola, of course, is no different. She loved all of us and we all loved her back. I still vividly remember, back in our home in Manila, she would gush when my sister Janna would perform one of her Little Miss Philippines number. Or how she had gone on and on when Phoebe became Little Miss Shakey’s – Subic. Or when, just recently, she was smiling from ear to ear proclaiming Ryu as being so handsome while we were Skyping with him from Japan. Or how she was so determined that Sophia will be a musical prodigy one day – a genius, even. And oh, how she smiled and felt so elated when Enzo recited a poem for her on her 75th birthday. 

I’ve had my share with her, too. When I was younger, for some reason, I had this penchant for gathering all the santo’s in our house, putting them on a table and performing the mass with candies as hosts and her being my one-woman congregation.

I was also in the fourth grade when I got some form of recognition and received a certificate or a medal from school. I actually forgot what the recognition was for, but here’s what I remember: Lola sent a card after that with P3,500 enclosed as a gift. My mommy used the money to buy me a second hand study table. Eighteen years later, I still have it with me.

For two or three years now, I was lucky to have come home for Christmas, her birthdays, and in between those occasions to see her. I always loved seeing her kasi lagi niya kong sinasabihan ng “Ang haba haba mo na“ in Bisaya, ang laki laki ko na raw. Or my favorite, “Ay ka-gwapo sa akong apo oi!” I don’t know if that’s her being honest, her cataract before, or her meds lately. =) I’d like to believe it’s the former. She was always generous with good words and lavish with her praises, especially with her apo. 

Generous. I guess if there is some form of Top Ten Words to describe Lola, that word will be in the upper list. In a lot of ways, we have all experienced her generosity. And in a lot of ways, as well, that generosity I believe stems from love. She just. Loved. Everybody. Sometimes, a little too much that she forgets about herself in the process.


One can also say a lot about Lola’s humor. There was one day she sat me down and told me in a grandmotherly way to study hard. Studying hard, she said, will allow me to go into a nice college and land a nice job. And once I get a nice job, she said, “Sa una among sweldo, ibili mo ako ng TV. Kasi hindi ako makanood ng TV sa kanila pinsan mo eh.”            

And just recently, after a long travel from Cebu, she told us how the trip went really sour. We were talking about it on the dinner table. Lola was sitting right in front of me and suddenly quipped: “Ay! Baling layu-a! Iinit pa kayo! Kapoy! I was smiling when she was talking because we all know how she is when she is in one of her mood swings. It was then, without any warning, without any apprehension and doubt, as if she’s just talking about the weather, she asks: “Bryan, kelan ka ikakasal?”
With my eyes still wide I immediately told Tita Guing, “Buti na lang hindi pala ako sumama no?!” It was then followed by a record breaking time of finishing my plate and hurrying to the kitchen.

A few months ago, after having a long day of spending the day with friends, I decided to sit beside her while watching her favorite teleseryes. She just burst out that time, and I paraphrase, “Kumpleto na ang buhay ko. Masayang masaya na ako kay lahat ng mga tito mo Toto, Bingbong, Junjun at tita mo Dolly, Inday, ug Guinguing nasa maayos na. May bahay na tayo. Hindi ko inisip na makakatira ako sa ganitong bahay. Ang bait bait ng Panginoon sa’tin. I’m so very happy!”

In a lot of ways, what we all do really is for Lola. Everything is for Lola. I believe that when Tita Guinguing bought the house, more than anything else, Lola was in her top priority. When Tito Jun and Tita Thanna settled down, that was for Lola. When mommy and Jamie decided to do some renovations for the house, it was for Lola. When Tito Bingbong and Tita Jane had three kids, they were for Lola. When Tita Dolly got worried last Christmas at what gift to give, it was certainly for Lola. In Dumaguete, our lives revolve around her. I can’t say it enough, we all just love Lola.
___

It’s a shame that I’m trying to recall all the good things she has done in her life, I’m sure these are not enough, no words will ever be enough to describe a woman as effulgent and wonderful as Lola. I feel that as I am making this, I’m failing her because my mind could only recall so much. My only consolation is that however my mind forgets, my heart, our hearts, will always know how beautiful a person, oh what a gift, Lola is to all of us.

In almost three decades of existence, I’ve lost a lot already. I’ve cried for people far too much. And the thought that grieving for Lola Esing, is but another tear for a wonderful faded flower in lush garden called life. With the love Lola Esing has shared, it’s not at all that hard to continue enjoying life as much as she did, to fight for life as much as she did, to give so much, as much as she did.


When I go to Cebu I will not try to find you there, you will not be there, because I know you will always be in our hearts.

There’s something beautiful about what Yann Martel said about death: The reason death sticks so closely to life isn’t biological necessity – it’s envy. Life is so beautiful that death has fallen in love with it, a jealous, possessive love that grabs at what it can. But life leaps over oblivion lightly, losing only a thing or two of no importance, and gloom is but the passing shadow of a cloud. 

Saturday, July 14, 2012

When Death becomes real

It's been thirteen years ago since death became real to me. Only 39, my papa died. The very moment I came from school and I heard it from the mouth of a neighbor. "Anong oras daw namatay?"
I still can't describe how I felt back then but I'll try. It's like being splashed with icy cold water all over my body. It's like all the muscles I have forgot the reason they're there. It's like my chest being suddenly, for no apparent reason, crushed by a huge rock. It's like my heart suddenly jumped beats. Beats. Maybe for a full minute or so. Until I feel as if my spirit knowingly and painfully ripping away from my body. And until then, everything I see is black, my memory hazy. I hear only muffled sounds. That's when I found myself bawling. Bawling and cursing and kicking. A time when my body is confused with exhaustion, weakness, and its need for physical release - tension and aggression.

And tonight, death comes knocking on my doors again. Hello, it said. It's been long. A somber, dreadful, slow, deliberate, gloomy mix of emotions suddenly creeps up my spine.

I know for a fact that his coming is inevitable. But tonight and the coming days ahead, I wish for it not to come sooner. And when he does, be like a silent thief in the night.

Thursday, March 29, 2012

@__@

ANG GULO MO!

Sunday, February 26, 2012

Gotta pull myself together, keep myself together.

Gotta pull myself together, keep myself together.

Gotta pull myself together, keep myself together.
Gotta pull myself together, keep myself together.
Gotta pull myself together, keep myself together.
Gotta pull myself together, keep myself together.
Gotta pull myself together, keep myself together.
Gotta pull myself together, keep myself together.
Gotta pull myself together, keep myself together.
Gotta pull myself together, keep myself together.
Gotta pull myself together, keep myself together.
Gotta pull myself together, keep myself together.

Monday, January 16, 2012

palaisipan

Sana hindi ako mapagod.